14 Be Happy

We all share the desire to be happy, many people look for happiness outside themselves, they wait for the people around them to change, or that the situations around them change, in order to be happy

But the reality, is that it is very difficult to find peace, that is, the happiness that brings us inner peace, outside of us, it is through a single path of introspection, of searching inside ourselves, even when we find satisfaction in our environment, through of our relationships, through the objects, through our experience in general, and these objects, situations, people can provide us with a happiness, we must be aware that it is a happiness temporary, because everything that comes into existence is subject to disappear, and then when we lose that object, that person, that position, that social status, because, with the same intensity that we live it with joy and happiness, it also provokes us, sadness, disillusionment, it makes us lack

What I mean by all this, it is not that we deprive ourselves of the enjoyment of our experiences, because this is part of life, but that it is necessary to learn to cultivate inner peace, inner connection, and that happiness, that joy, that deep joy, that comes, that only comes from being in touch with yourself, beyond the conditions of your environment, because the reality is that the conditions of our environment are continually changing, and if we are subject to these conditions, then we fluctuate, we fluctuate with it in periods of happiness, of sadness, of attachments

However, when we begin to cultivate that inner refuge, that inner connection, we also begin to cultivate

to feel more stability in our life and we bring that stability to the relationship with ourselves, but also that stability, that knowledge, that confidence, that responsiveness that increases, is also expressed in the relationships

Our relationships also tend to improve when we cultivate inner peace

Beyond all of our basic needs, we can summarize and talk about on this occasion of four needs which are: attention, affection, appreciation and acceptance

We all need attention

It would be good that from now on you start observing how you get attention

When you get someone's attention, maybe you look intensely into their eyes or you raise the tone of your voice

or you make some claim

When we become aware of this need for attention that each one of us have but also the people with whom we relate to, we learn to listen beyond language, beyond claims, beyond complaints

what the person is needing and in many cases, the person, that we're interacting with, is needing of our attention

Then affection, because we all need affection, all of us

we all need love

Love is the energy that unifies, it is the energy that unites nature and makes life possible

When we need love, one of the most important ways natural way to receive love is to start giving it

Whenever we desire something we can begin by giving it, but above all with love, especially with love, when we give, when we share, it's the most natural to receive it, but also, you may ask yourself in what way you interact with people when you need to to receive love

Maybe you make a call

or maybe you give them a hug, or maybe you give them a poem, a flower

Observe how you behave when you need to receive love

Appreciation

We need them to appreciate those things that we do many times, we are striving, we are giving our best, we are continually growing, moving the boundaries and at some point we need someone to recognize that, to give us an expression of

of acceptance, to accept, to acknowledge, to appreciate what we are doing

See how you give your appreciation to the people you love and how also, you behave when you need to receive appreciation

And finally acceptance

Acceptance, is something we usually find in friends

generally

In those people that accept us as we are without judging

At some point then too, we need to to be in the presence of someone who accepts us as we are without asking us, without questioning us, simply to show us his presence and to give us that

that acceptance just as we are

And also observe how we behave when we accept someone that

that we love and we give that full, total acceptance

that allows the other to be as they are, without judging, without asking for anything in return

When our basic needs are satisfied, we experience joy, happiness, joy

it helps us to realize our plans, our projects, it helps us to feel fulfilled

And when our basic needs are not satisfied, we usually feel sad, discouraged

sometimes, we may tend to depression

The reality is that the more mechanisms, the more abilities we develop, to satisfy our desires, our needs, the happier we are in our life

And my Invitation as of today, to

to listen, to listen what they are those needs, those desires that are inside of you and that you learn to believe in them and progressively to realize them, because it definitely comes off a great feeling of happiness, and of accomplishment, when our basic needs are satisfied