19 Full social life

From today we are going to make a radical change in the way we relate to others

We are going to focus our attention on the people we interact with from now on

We will leave behind our egoic self, in need of attention, of constantly giving its opinion or to be right, to welcome our kindest self, eager to serve and learn from our fellow men

What do you think? Don't worry if you have contrary thoughts, it's totally normal, we like to be protagonists, but we must also train ourselves to live fulfilling relationships

and for this it will be necessary that at least let's try once what it feels like when we focus on them and not on us as we relate

In the next opportunity you have to cross a few words with somebody I want you to focus on the conversation, I want you to pay full attention to what they express, practicing active listening

Stay awake to be aware of all the details, not just the content that person is sharing, that is to say, the message that he is transmitting to you

I also want you to focus on his tone of voice, on the emotion he may be feeling as he speaks to you, it's a high pitched tone, low-pitched

He may be nervous, fearful or relaxed

Observe carefully what he tells you and how he tells you, his message will reach you more clearly if you also pay attention to the gestures of his face

Small gestures that seem invisible at other times

Look where her eyes move, the expression lines of her eyebrows, of his forehead

How does it express itself bodily? Does he move his hands? Does he hide them? Does he swing his body to any particular side? Does he turn his head to the left? To the right? Also to live more present this conversation you can look for how his words resonate in you

Sometimes certain sensations appear with certain words or tones, something triggers a signal inside you, a negative emotion is aroused or the opposite positive

In your next conversation, try to breathe while listening, don't be in a hurry to answer, give yourself time to breathe, internalize what has been transmitted to you and when you feel ready answer

If you have not understood something correctly, ask your interlocutor if the message you have received is the one you have received

really wanted to communicate

On the one hand, it will make the person you are talking to understand that you are really interested in the subject you are discussing

and on the other hand you will get a better understanding of what he/she wants to tell you

The relationship will become healthier, more effective and more real

Seek to pay attention to the person with whom you communicate

and in this way you will be able to better understand the message

Sometimes we are so deep in our thoughts that we misunderstand the words, we are easily hurt and we do not achieve a fluent communication with the people around us

As you can see, mindfulness will also help us in this area of our life

Start practicing it now and you will notice the difference

See you next time

Happy present moment