09. Guide for all

there are some objectives that scientists set themselves to address this issue in a comprehensive manner, and to tackle the problem taking into account all the characteristics it has, the first thing is to detect what the dimension of the problem is

knowing what we are talking about, finding out the degree of vulnerability to addiction, as everyone is not the same, identifying which emotions are associated with the search for sensations on the internet, which are associated with its use since not everyone has the same

Determining exactly what the consequences are and what the symptoms of abuse are because sometimes you have a few and sometimes you have them all

The first thing, of course, is to develop awareness and strategies to prevent and manage better such use

And also to decide that this has to be regulated as it is a responsibility of parents, educators, etc

what behaviours, emotions, thoughts trigger this dependence, is something to explore in young people, so that they are able to share what they are looking for, being honest

encourage listening, which is something that is disappearing, and social relationships based on one-on-one encounters

or the level of empathy that we all have since, sometimes, they do not respect each other, as they do not relate in an authentic way

to work on a line of accepting feelings of frustration, because we are seeing that young people are not very resistant to frustration, and of course to look for alternatives to increase the level of resilience, the feeling of empowerment, that this problem can be controlled

and to recover some activities such as reading, movies, volunteering, exercise, anyway

finally, in a programme that deals with the whole, it is also necessary to be there in case they relapse, because sometimes there are relapses and the person needs to be with someone if this happens

often it is not only educational, some family control is needed, sometimes therapeutic help is needed

and nowadays many young people who have profiles in social networks, have them at a very early age and they use instant messaging groups as an everyday thing, as something that is part of their life without thinking about anything else

there they transfer their concerns, their conflicts, their stories

but sometimes they generate problems

sometimes they also generate dangerous situations painful situations, sometimes they don't even sleep because they are connected all night

at the other end, they can also go as far as cyberbullying

in short, the control of others through technology and and behaviors considered criminal such as Phising, which we are seeing very often

which means that they can impersonate other people, and this is very serious

that they obtain confidential information in an impermissible way, which is in fact fraudulent or even dissemination of confidential data without the person's consent, with results that are sometimes, as we have said, sad and painful

it is essential that families regulate the use of ICT it is not true that this has to be controlled from the age of 12 or less Parents, educators have to know what they is doing, where they are looking, how long they're connected in short, they have to supervise this childish and youthful behavior it is a necessary fact

It is impossible for this to be solved if the parents give up this responsibility or if they respect this part, let's say private

Why? because in the end they trigger conflicts out of school and reactions

clearly unhealthy to put it in a way Apart from that school performance, many times, decrease and this is also a problem

Have a social facet or one that allows you to connect with friends, as they generate emotional relief

They allow you to set numerical targets, i

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to accumulate followers, ¨likes¨ etc

They allow you to establish comparisons where you see yourself in a table compared to other users

They have unpredictable rewards, allowing you to progress in games that allow you to move from one screen to another

the frequency stimulation response is high, emotions are fast, one after the other and in a short time

They allow you to create new identities, choose your profile, who you are, and how you want to be

10 basic criteria for assessing whether a technology is addictive

Salience, is the percentage of importance it has in your life Tolerance, needs to increase the time of use each time, Knows how to modify the mood

Compulsive use, if you connect every free minute

Anticipation, if you think about using it all the time

Loss of control of its use, creates conflict in the social and family circles

Abstinence syndrome, when you see if there is nervousness or anger if it is not used

Relapses, when is difficult to control the will

Emotional relief, when is used to relieve a discomfort

I agree not to publish, ever, insults, harsh words with intent to harm or negative comments

I pledge not to answer insults with other insults, and not to say anything that will make things worse

I promise not to write anything that I know is not true, a slander

or something that I'm not sure about

which is a possible slander

I promise not to threaten anyone, ever

I promise not to introduce myself on the Internet under a false name or identity

I promise not to upload photos, videos or illegal material to the Internet

I agree not to share photos, videos of people under 14 years old without their parents' permission, even if they are my own friends

I agree not to share addresses, phone numbers or any other personal information on the internet

And the golden rule, I must always treat and respect others as I expect them to treat me

these rules will keep me safe and away from breaking the law

Most violations of these rules are crimes, with consequences that can be very serious